Life is a bit of frenzy and one needs guidance and advice from someone who has proven to be a success at handling it. We all reach certain stages in our journey of life that makes us think and reconsider “where are we going” or “what are we doing”? For a lucky few, they know exactly where they are headed and what goals they want to achieve ultimately or how they want to see themselves in a couple of years. For the rest of us, well ahh, it is more like a lost and found expedition: We find our motivation to move forward and as the course of life carries on we lose sight of it or we get distracted by other sparkly goals waiting to be explored.
Don’t worry!! It is no shocking news; more than half of us (even as adults or in our old age when everyone thinks and hopes we might have found our calling) find ourselves in the exact same situation. But one needs to keep moving forward with the same enthusiasm of a four year old running towards the new swing installed in the park. Here is a list of 6 Life Lessons one can understand from successful people.
Embrace the Glorious Mess that You Are
Be you, no one can play that role better than you and like Marilyn Monroe claims “wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.” With the social media all over the place from the private to personal and public, it becomes difficult to not feel intrigued by someone else’s “happy life”. And with so many apps to check, it feels like everyone’s a success at managing themselves and maybe the problem is just somewhere with me (the me is most of us reading this).
But hear me out on this ironic cliché: you are as unique as everybody else. You might not feel as “beautiful” (what is beauty anyways? Everyone has their own definition, so stop comparing yourself) as them, or you might not be posting as many pictures as them on every single app does not mean nothing is happening in your life. If you take a minutes to reflect, even in the most humdrum of life we have so much going on and we all mean something to someone and are important to maybe not a hundred thousand (or maybe the seventy-eighty hearts he/she got), but to the few who mean the most to us too. Redefine your motto: its quality over quantity.
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Successful leaders learn through their own mistakes rather than put the weight on someone else’s shoulders.
Is It a Bird, Is It an Airplane, No Its Superman
Don’t fall in this confusion! Straight up learn to say a “yes” when you want to and a “no” when it is needed. Asa Don Brown writes in one of his books “boundaries are, in simple terms, the recognition of personal space.” We all get wired up thinking what will happen if I agree or I might be termed stubborn for saying a no. NO! You decide what is it you want in your life for you are your ship’s pirate. You sail the boat and if someone doesn’t want to jump in, well maybe the less on board the better the sail. Remember we are our longest commitment and if we don’t learn to define and live with ourselves first, people will find it difficult to do so too.
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“Mine, Mine, Mine”
The moment we hear these words we have this image of someone claiming someone as their’s. Well, it does make for a cute love story but why do we forget the same words when we make blunders and mistakes. Take responsibility! John Miller in QBQ (Question Behind the Question) states “There’s not a chance we’ll reach our full potential until we stop blaming each other and start practicing personal accountability”.
When we fall down pointing fingers won’t help us get back on our feet. It is learning to use our own two hands to push ourselves up and stand back up straight. If we have been a part of a bad decision and we learn to own the mistake, we broaden our personality horizons. Successful leaders learn through their own mistakes rather than put the weight on someone else’s shoulders.
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“Darling, It Distracts from the Now”
Everyone is in their own time zone (figuratively). We all have our own pace of managing things and finding our way forward in life. Some of us are married at twenty while some are picking up on their education at fifty where they left off. Success, like time and love, beauty and happiness is a qualitative entity. We can’t measure someone’s success or the difficulties they have had in trying to reach a certain point. One person’s success could be someone else’s starting point to another new level (you might have learned to bake a simple yellow cake while your friend in the same kitchen just completed a 5 layered fondant dessert!) But your small achievement is a big one in your life.
So, define what success to you is. If you get distracted by that fondant cake you might just mess up with the recipe of yellow cake and so focus on your work. Remember, Matt LeBlanc only started with 11 dollars in his pocket before becoming the charmer “Joey” for many generations to come.
We are all just humans trying our best to do the best we can but those some days when things don’t work out according to our plan, we need to learn to say “It’s OK!”
“Heal What has Been Lost”
This is life! No one is guaranteeing a one way happiness ticket to Barbados (or some really cool happy living place). We will accomplish some days, we will lose on others. We can’t control all the incoming and outgoing from our lives. But to be able to understand this and accept it is what will lead us forward. As our heart throb Imran Khan (politician and cricketer) says “it is not defeat that destroys you, it is being demoralized by defeat that destroys you”.
When life has worn us down we need to remember the good days. Just like we can’t blame anyone else for what happens to us, we need to learn to not blame ourselves to depression of the things that go wrong. We are all just humans trying our best to do the best we can but those some days when things don’t work out according to our plan, we need to learn to say “It’s OK” and go through these 6 Life Lessons in order to succeed.
Life doesn’t come with an instruction manual. Everyone gets a chance at it and can build it in n anyway they want it. Make the best of it. Cheers !
“Courage, My Dear Child”
How difficult it is to believe that Walt Disney would ever be shunned for lack of imagination. The great maestro of Disney World encourages us when he says “all our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to purse them”. We need to believe in ourselves and go for whatever it is that sparks our hearts and minds. It is in moments of courage that we help ourselves grow mentally.
Life doesn’t come with an instruction manual. Everyone gets a chance at it and can build it in n anyway they want it. Make the best of it. Cheers and follow these 6 life lessons to become successful.